Persistence – A Common Trait in Caregivers
“Success is not the absence of failure; it’s the persistence through failure.” – Aisha Tyler
For caregivers, it’s common to feel overwhelmed at times and to be tempted to give up. But do you know what’s also common? Our persistence. Among all the traits associated with caregivers, persistence might be the most frequently mentioned.
Why? Maybe it’s because a caregiver’s tasks and responsibilities can feel never-ending, yet we still endure. And any progress for our loved one may be difficult to recognize, yet we continue to hope. And we may encounter many barriers between us and our goals, yet we maintain our commitment to do the hard work necessary to overcome them.
When I think of my own journey as a caregiver, I think of all the highs and lows I’ve experienced along the way. I’ve learned a lot – not only about caring for others, but also about caring for myself. I’ve discovered that when things go “wrong”, it’s an opportunity to learn and grow. My mistakes teach me how NOT to do things. My goal is always to NOT make the same mistake twice – and to avoid making mistakes that bring serious consequences. My mistakes have helped me learn NOT to give up when things go “wrong” and to develop the persistence I need to try again … and again … and again.
Although it may be tempting to stay inside our comfort zone and avoid risk, persistence is the drive that pushes us forward. As Robert Frost said, “The best way out is always through.”
Persistence is difficult to achieve, and like most things that are worthwhile, it takes practice. For help practicing persistence, try these three tools:
ADOPT A GROWTH MINDSET. A growth mindset can help you overcome setbacks and negativity, and emphasize what is within reach. It can also help you to be tenacious in the face of adversity.
BE ADAPTABLE AND FLEXIBLE. These are essential capabilities for managing ongoing uncertainties. Are you a black/white – my way or no way – kind of caregiver? OR do you meet your loved one where they are and adapt/pivot?
DEVELOP A POSITIVE MINDSET. A positive mindset can help you overcome doubt and build resilience toward making mistakes. Let’s face it – we ALL make mistakes. The question is: Will we learn from them and grow, or will we let them define us?
Persistence allows us to achieve our goals and overcome our challenges. When we are persistent, we are also resilient and motivated. And we create an atmosphere of hope. Where will YOUR persistence lead YOU?